What if I said you should give up asking the same boring questions in your relationship? “what is your favorite color?” “What is your best craving for dinner?” what color of the dress are you wearing?” Boring! Awkward! It’s time to bring things up and get authentic with some vulnerable questions. No, I’m not talking about old questions asking your partner about their favorite color. Or what they had special for breakfast? I am talking about asking questions that delve deeply into personal and emotional territory. These questions might make both parties uncomfortable and bring tears to their eyes. So gear up and get ready to dive into the uncomfortable but most beneficial and fruiting questions.
Whether you have been dating for twenty weeks or married for ten years, there is always something new to know about your partner.
There is a list of deep questions to ask your boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, or significant other. If you’re not sure about asking these questions too early on or want to start with lighter softer or more lighthearted questions, we created 80 fun questions to ask your friends to get to know them on a deeper and more authentic level.
Questions about past agony or troubling experiences:
- What is one of the most troubling experiences you’ve been through?
- How has your past made you ready for the way you approach relationships?
- Is there something unending from your past that still affects you?
- Have you ever been provoked by something I did or said? Can you share it with me?
- How has your past affected your communication with me?
- Is there something from your past that you haven’t completely overcome yet? How can I help you in that situation?
- Are there any significant ways you need me to be alert of your past incidents in our relationship?
- How has your past affected your expectations and hopes of relationships in general?
- Have you ever thought that you couldn’t fully confident me because of something in your past? Can we talk about it?
- What role or character do you see your past playing in our future together?
Questions about Trust and Values:
- What is one of the most important values you think that should be part of our relationship?
- How has your raising influenced your trust in love and relationships?
- Are there any religious or spiritual beliefs that are significant for you?
- What is the value of honesty and communication in a relationship to you?
- What is the importance of having similar political views with your partner?
- What is your concept of marriage and commitment?
- What is the importance of family for you?
- What is your idea about forgiveness in a relationship?
- Does financial stability have any importance to you in a relationship?
- Do you think that having separate interests is crucial in a relationship?
Questions about goals and dreams:
- Is there anything you’ve always wanted to achieve but have always been afraid to chase?
- Where do you see the site of our relationship in five years?
- Are there any dreams of yours that you haven’t shared with anyone else?
- What is the highest goal you have for our relationship?
- What is a site of dream vacation you’ve always wanted to take?
- What is a career goal you have planned for yourself?
- How do you feel yourself growing personally in the next few years?
- What is a creative passion you have decided to achieve in your life?
- What type of new hobbies or interests you’d like to try?
- What will be the causes of charity you’d like to support together as a couple?
Questions about the relationship itself:
- What is one special thing you wish we did more often as a couple?
- What is one thing you consider we need to work on in our relationship?
- What is something you like and appreciate about our relationship that you’ve never informed me about before?
- What is one thing you think that there is a need to change about how we communicate?
- How can we make our intimacy more meaningful deep and fulfilling?
- What is something new you’d like to include in our relationship?
- How can we support and help each other better in our individual and personal goals?
- What will be the most impressive way we can celebrate important milestones in our relationship?
- How can we spend quality time together despite our busy schedules?
What will be the new ways of expressing our love and appreciation for each other?
Questions about personal fears and insecurities:
- What threatens you the most about our relationship?
- When do you think most vulnerable in our relationship?
- What is something you hesitate to tell me?
- Have you ever been hurt or deceived in a past relationship?
- Is there anything in your past you worry about when it comes to our future together?
- Do you have any type of insecurities about your physical appearance that affect your confidence in our relationship?
- Are there any moments in our relationship where you feel insecure or unsure about how I feel about you?
- What is your worst fear about being in a committed relationship?
- Have you ever thought that you weren’t good enough for me or that I deserved someone else better?
- Are you ever worried that our differences might become a problem in the coming days?
